OMG!!!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl · OMG!!!

Well, I got a call from my ex this morning. "I still love you. I haven't been seeing anyone and I'd really like to see you. I know you'll probably say no, and I know that I did you wrong, but I would like to see you."

WTH!!!! I thought I was going to barf!!!

MaritimeGuy

I can't speak to your ex specifically as I don't know him but it sounds to me like, "I haven't been successful in getting any lately. How bout a a roll in the hay for old times sake."

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Well, it doesn't matter because he won't be getting any!!!

MaritimeGuy

Maybe you could send him a sexy hand puppet so he can help himself out. Laughing

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Well, that's an idea.

MaritimeGuy

Now if you were passive agreesive like me you'd make the puppet into a likeness of yourself. Wink

...and send it with a note, "Here's so you can remember what you gave up. Enjoy!"

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Got another phone call from him again this morning. He misses me, he wants to see me, he still loves me, he made a mistake 15 months ago (yes, it has been 15 months since he left) and he's been kicking himself ever since. His mom misses me, his son misses me.

Said he didn't blame me for not wanting to see him. LOL

He has got to quit calling me at work!! It gets me agitated. Oh, and he said "You don't have anything I want, I just want you." - WTH does that mean???? He decided he doesn't want my house, etc. now after those fights we had about me putting his name on the house??? hhhmmmm...

Oh, and he's driving by my house STILL because he saw my daughter's new car in the driveway. 15 months after he leaves, he is still driving by my house! WTH

I mean, I know I am awesome, adorable and irresistible, but COME ON!!!

MaritimeGuy

It's starting to sound kind of stalkerish (if that's a word). I think you're going to hit this guy over the head so to speak to make him see the light. Tell him not to call you at work for just the reasons you told us and that he shouldn't be stalking your house. Basically tell him not to call you...if you change your mind you'll call him. *click*

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

I may just have some police officer friends hang around my house and give him a talking to!!!! That might wake him up!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

UPDATE.....Well, he called several times today. I told him this morning that I would meet him for dinner on Saturday. Said he was looking forward to it, blah, blah blah. He wanted to meet Friday night, I told him I couldn’t Friday that I had plans, but I could Saturday.

Fast forward approximately 1 hour. I am away from my desk and he calls and leaves a message, with a rather hateful sounding voice, that said he had been thinking about it and he thought having dinner Saturday would not be a good idea, that I obviously had male friends and that since I had plans on Friday that obviously that guy meant more to me than he did and that we would not have quality personal time to spend together on Saturday and that he did not feel that would be enough time for us to talk about getting back together and for me not to bother calling him back (but I never talked to him about getting back together, I only said I would have dinner with him….and, apparently, he is irritated that I have a life and I have male friends). WTH!!! It is like a completely different person than the one I talked to about an hour ago.

Apparently for the last 15 months I was supposed to be eating my heart out over him (I did that for several months), THEN on top of that, I'm supposed to drop everything in my life the minute I hear from him and run to do exactly what he wants me to do!!!

SCREW THAT!!!

Unfortunately, he is calling me at work. We don't have caller ID. I can't just not answer the phone. But, belive me, the next time he calls, I am going to tell him I never want to hear from him again and for him not to call me, then I will calmly HANG UP!!!!

GGGRRRR

I think he is psycho or something!!!

MaritimeGuy

It appears he wants things according to his agenda or not at all. Sounds like a control freak to me. I'd stear clear if I were you...unless of course you want to be at his beck and call and have no life for fear it will upset him.

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Don't worry. I'm steering clear!!! I have a life and I am keeping it that way. I did, however, drive myself crazy after he left wondering if it was something I had done. At least now I know....IT WASN'T ME!!! IT WAS HIM!!! ALL HIM!!!

Who wants any type of relationship with someone who, as soon as things aren't how he THINKS or WANTS them to be 1000% bails?? I'll tell you who NO ONE!

But, at least now I know for sure. It wasn't me. I did all I could. It is not my job to save or fix him.

But you would think that he would have learned SOMETHING from before, but I guess not. I guess he will just keep on repeating the same old behaviours and never learn anything.

Yes, he is a control freak. Yes, he is narcisstic (everything and everyone is supposed to revolve around him). Yes, he is probably a sociopath.

(running away now....off to my happy life without him!!!)

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

But I know, eventually he is going to call me again. He'll apologize. He'll probably act like none of this every happened and/or think that is just how he is (he told me before "you know I say things I don't mean when I'm upset" like I'm just supposed to accept anything that comes out of his mouth).

But, one of us did learn something from this relationship. ME. I will never again be with anybody who thinks SO MUCH of themselves and SO LITTLE of everyone else! He ain't all that.

He lost his chance (and he had several chances).

Yes, everybody makes mistakes. Most people LEARN from those mistakes and don't repeat them over and over. Not him. Same old stuff, different day. 15 months later!

Now, if I see him anywhere around my house again, I'm not talking to him about it, I'm just calling the cops and filing a stalker complaint. I'm done with all that!!!!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Oh well. I guess after a while I start to doubt myself. But, NOT MY FAULT, NOT MY FAULT, NOT MY FAULT.

The reason I was going to meet him is some of his family had indicated that the reason he gave me for leaving is not the reason he was telling everyone else, and I wanted some answers from him. But, the truth is he would have just lied to me anyway, and it really doesn't matter any more why he left. He left, and that is that. I finally realized that if people are stupid enough to believe what he is telling them about me, then let them. Not everyone is that stupid and it no longer matters.

I don't know why I always worry about what others think of me, but I do. It is something I am trying to work on.

MaritimeGuy

I think it's typical when someone leaves you they'll tell anyone who listens all kinds of bad things about you. I think it's their way of rationalizing their choice. To do otherwise would mean they are accepting some of the blame.

I found out from a mutual friend after my seperation that my ex was telling people I was a monster. That's just the one thing that got passed along to me. God knows what other kinds of things were said. In a way I'm sure she believed what she was saying. In order to get the courage to leave me (or ask me to leave in my case) she needed to build me up in her mind as a monster. Like many other people I certainly had my issues but I don't believe they were as bad as she was making out. We each have our own perception of reality. My guess is the reality lies somewhere in the middle.