Happy Valentines

Guest · Happy Valentines

Just wanted to wish everyone a Happy Valentine's Day!

And a wonderful weekend!

Guest

BAH HUMBUG.............

But do have a good weekend...

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

I am trying to imagine feeling like I am the only woman on the face of the earth to a man.......Can't imagine it....BUt I suppose it would feel wonderful.

Guest

so it won't help if i tell you i give you credit for at least trying? sorry they are all losers.

but at least you are out there and trying. i'm still waiting for the one who shows up at the door to meet me - (preferably carrying a pizza).

Guest

not sure i'm the one to give hope, but.....

dont' give up. you are not losing face. as for hope - that i get. when too many things don't work out the way you want them to or need them to, then it does seem like time to give up. but don't. it's not really you.

as for losing face - if some jack ass has his profile up just to stroke his ego and you fall into his game - it's not a reflection on you. it's a reflection on him. and i know how it feels to think you are running after something, or being made to look foolish, but sometimes that isn't so. as for match.com, you are using it for its intended purpose - he's not. or maybe he is but he is not honest.

also, if you never took a risk, you would never create an opportunity to learn. too much isolation or avoidance (talking about me here) is not a good thing. it's hard with the wounds still fresh, but if you could keep trying it might just work out with someone else.

i like to believe that are decent people out there. and you just have to sift through the others to find them.

as an aside, if you really do feel isolated, would it be something to think about talking wtih the realtor who is interested in your property? would a change - even locally - do you good? not sure. sometimes change for the sake of change isn't good. but then again, sometimes change just puts you in line for the next thing.

Guest

right - not everyone has a personality disorder. and not everyone cheats, lies or makes bad decisions.

remember, you are the one in the driver's seat. you have the power to make it work for you.

Guest

best laugh i had all day : )

ME DATING SITE ha, ha, ha so not never ever happening!!!

nope, it's either the pizza delivery guy or the bag boy at the grocery store.

and yes, i know i can dish out the advice without any regard to taking it myself. kinda makes me laugh, too. i'm so lame.

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Wait!!! NOT EVERYONE HAS PERSONALITY DISORDERS??????????

OMG!!!! Are you sure?????? At least, you two are talking about M-E-N here, right??? I was beginning to think I was gonna have to try pitching for the other side (okay, that made my stomach roll just thinking about it, so I guess that's probably a no for me).

Don't lose heart Heart! I'm still trying!!!! They just like to send me e-mails and after a while of that, I get bored. But, I'll keep slogging through. For now anyway. Until my membership runs out, which I think is next month

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Well, should I send the most recent guy a "do you want to meet for coffee?" e-mail? The reason I didn't was his e-mail yesterday said that he was treating match.com pretty much as a joke and figured he would not meet anyone for a relationship there, which I of course, translated into, I'm just jerking your chain, don't bother meeting me. Of course, I do OCCASIONALLY overthink things!

So, what do you think? Do I go for it and let things slide???

Guest

I would say if he's interesting to you give it a try. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Just be wary as there's a chance he's not what he makes himself out to be. Online I think most people project themselves as they want to be seen...not necessarily the same as they actually are.

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Okay, you're right. I should definitely pay attention to those little red flags AS THEY POP UP and act on them (or not act on them, as the case may be) accordingly. So, I will just keep looking. But I'm not renewing my membership on match. So far, I have not really found anyone....that is....well....a good match for me. I found some very strange people though. And I found a couple that sounded good, talked on the phone and sounded fine, but then failed to follow through (okay, I mad one of them mad because I was busy when he called and then I forgot to call back til the next day and he got mad! But jeez! I have a life!)

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

You know, maybe it isn't that all men are on the prowl, looking for their next fix. Maybe, it is that match and places like that are basically like a fishing pond to them, already stocked with a huge supply of just what they want, except these fish are ready for them. All they have to do is APPLY THE BS!

Guest

Gosh, you have kissable looking lips!!! LOL!!!

Anyways, sorry, I haven't been on and obviously missed alot!

Well, I hope you all treated yourself good!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

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CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

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It's funny that the double standard still exists in that area. Most people are thinking about the guy.."hey good for you...you just got out of a long term relationship and are having some fun". Now if a woman did that a lot of people wouldn't be so charitable about it.

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl