About this new guy!

Guest · About this new guy!

I met this guy on Myspace and he's got plenty of pics on there that I believe what he looks like is the truth and we chatted then he gave me his number to text him.
He is really cute!!!
So we texted a few times and he seems ok!!! And I only mean OK!!!
I wasn't real impressed with his voice!! From his pics, I thought it would be deeper!!!
Bright, ambitious yes but then he asked if he could call me and I said sure.
So he called the other morning while he's trying to get ready for work!! Alright, I'm glad he's able to multi task, but I deserve undivided attention! LOL!!
So he tells me he'll call me the next day, he didn't so I texted him and he told me to call him in a couple hours. When I did, he sounded happy to hear from me but then asked me to hold on, another call was coming in. Well, that kind of set it up for me!! He left me on hold for about 45 seconds and I went ahead and waited and when he got back on, he did apologize but then he said he was at the park with his son.
I then said, "oh, well had I known, I wouldn't have bothered you! Have fun" and said bye.
He quickly threw it in that he would call me later.

Well he tried calling me later and I just didn't pick up, and I texted him back and said "Sorry, I've been crazy busy, have a great week!!!"
I didn't want to sound rude, but I didn't want it to seem like I don't have a life either!!!!!!
Then he texted me back with this message: "have a great week, hmmm"
Then yesterday morning he texted me with "woke up with a question".
Well, my phone's screen died and I couldn't get to the store to get another phone until later and so I texted him last nite with that I was sorry, my phone broke and I just pulled my texts out. What was your question?
Then he texted me this morning that he'll call me later.
So it's kinda like he's playing some game or he's wondering if I got upset about something. Which I did, you don't put me on hold, you call me back and you don't tell me to call you when you can't talk!!!!! lOl

So, I'll see what his question is and how it goes!!!
A day at a time right?
And my expectations are NOT at all very high!!!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Ummmmm.....Okay, this guy is probably picking up the signals you are sending out that you are not very interested. Putting you on hold for 45 seconds really is not that bad. Plus he apologized when he came back. Myself, if one of my kids call and I'm talking to you, I'm going to find out if it is urgent, if it is I will talk to them, if not I will tell them I'll call them back then I will come right back to you. I don't see that as a big deal at all, or a red flag.

He asked you to call him and he was at the park with his son. A time he probably knew his son would be busy, and he would be free to talk. I don't see that as a flag either. He is just trying to schedule a time to talk to you when the son isn't right there under his elbow.

I don't really think he is playing games with you. I think he feels like you are playing games with him. But I think what is really going on is you (okay me too, I can tell you I recongize what you are doing because I do it myself) are afraid to let your guard down, and you've got your walls so far up that he probably feels like he'll never get over them. This way he gives up, you say you tried, and that's that. But, in order to really and truly give him a chance, you are going to have to open up just a little bit.

(Now, I didn't upset you did I? I sure wasn't trying to!!!)

Guest

City, no you didn't upset me, but he told me I could call and when I did, besides putting me on hold, he asked if he could call me back!!! Because he was at the park!!! I guess I left that part out!!! LOL!

So, if I tell someone to call me, and I've made plans, I would make sure I can talk for at least a few minutes since I told them to call, you know?!!

Heart, yea, keep those expectations up!!!!
I'm not looking for Mr. Right by any means, but if I find a friend along the way, well treat me as such!!!

And he gave me his number and asked me to call/text him!!! So, damnit, make time for the Queen!!! LOL!!!

Guest

But ladies, he is kinda worth waiting to see where this will lead, cuz he's FINE looking!!! LOL!!!

Guest

then taking it one day at a time seems like the way to go Smile

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Oh, I see. Well, then you just stick to your guns girl! Besides, I tend to project a bit much anyway! LOL!

Guest

Update,
he texted me and asked me to call him, he had great news.
So I texted him and said I would call back later that night. OMG, I forgot to call him!!!!
Well, I texted him yesterday morning, and told him I was sorry I didn't call back, I was out til late!!!
Then he called me right back!!!
The first time we talked, he said his friend works at a horse stable near me and they were always looking for volunteers to ride and help with the animals. I told him that I would def. be interested.
So the news was that his friend is interested in meeting with me to see if I qualify to help!!
Then we ended up talking for 1 1/2 hr!!!!
He was actually funny!!! He talked about his son, his divorce, his life in general and he really seems down to earth, not bragging about himself!
And he acted genuinely interested in what I had to say.
Then he asked if we could set something up to meet. I told him sure, and if he would call me later today to set it up.
So, we'll see!!!!

But he really did sound genuine.
I'll keep you posted!!!

Guest

wow. sounds great. hope it continues to go in a good direction.

keep us posted.

Guest

Sorry Soon,

I am late in responding with my 2 cents worth. He sounds interesting, but the phone thingy, where he put you on hold to answer another incoming call...yellow flag. Trust me, noone, and I mean noone calling in ever caused me to put my future hubbie on hold, while I took the call. I would make note of who tried to call, and then call them back when done.

So proceed with caution (yellow flag warning) and see if this turns out to be something that happens frequently. I have to say one of my thoughts was, "Is this guy a player" and was he getting a call from some other woman. Time will tell, and you just be sure that you don't settle on anything.

Hell, I don't even like it when a friend does that to me. I have let them know that if when I call or they call me, if they feel that an incoming call is important enough to take over the current call with me, take it, but I won't be waiting for them to finish up and get back to me. That I will disconnect and if they wish to continue our conversation, they are free to call me back. Most friends understood. One or two who didn't like it, well let's just say they aren't friends any longer.

I just think it is rude to allow an incoming call to interrupt the call you are already engaged with. You know once upon a time we didn't have the abiity to be reached when on a phonecall. Hell I even remember when there was no messaging machines or voice messaging to take missed calls. You know somehow we survived not having that technology. It just meant we we try to reach whomever we wanted to talk with later. It was no biggie.

So, if something bothers you, like his calling while he is trying to get ready for work, or his telling you to call him at a certain time, when he knows he will be doing something else, tell him. Let him know you wish his undivided attention during the time the two of you are talking. I don't think that is too much to ask for and important enough that he should know about it so that if he fails to follow through, he understands if you decide to end the friendship. He can't change how he does something that bothers you, if you don't let him know. Don't expect him to be a mind reader. If you feel it is too early to have this talk, then do have it later, if it continues to be something that happens and it bothers you.

So proceed on the "yellow flag" with caution and take things slowly. I hope this turns out to be a nice guy who you will enjoy spending time with. Do keep us posted.

Hugs,
Nish

PS: What the heck is going on with the judge that you are awaiting the ruling from? It feels like a lifetime since she indicated she would be going over things before giving her decision.

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

So, how's it going with new guy?????? Come on, give up the info girl!!

Guest

Thanks, Nish, I am certainly keeping those things in mind.
It's kind of weird!!! He called me yesterday and after we talked and laughed for about 30 min. he said he would call me the next day and "see about setting something up to meet"

What was wrong in setting something up now while you have me on the phone?
I'm sorry, life is just too short to not meet in person. And as Nish said, there was a time when we didn't have all these other ways to communicate.
And of course it would be in a safe semi crowded place and I would drive myself!!!
But I'm still being patient cuz on the other hand, Heart, I registered on that Plentyoffish!!!!!!
And was actually talking to this one guy who has a boat!!!! He has about 6 pics posted so I'm quite sure he's for real.
He was hilarious and thought I was too.
And he seemed down to earth, didn't brag about himself, but I did ask about his boat!!! I love them though, grew up on one when I was a kid!!!

I sent him pics of me as mine are private and told him my name and he said instead of Maureen, I looked more like a Zena!!!
I said I resented the "Amazon" remark and he said he meant it in a good way and knew I was small!!
Then we both joked about liking that show and always fantasizing about being Zena's little blond mate!!!! HeeHeeheee!!!!

He asked me for my number and said he would call me tomorrow and we even talked about meeting up this wknd at this winery near us.

So, I'm not going to wait around for the other "phone" guy!!! But it doesn't hurt to have lots of friends!!!
And hey, we only live once, and I did my womanly part ---had kids and 2 husbands who didn't see fit to treat me right or even thought I deserved to be treated right!!

Now it's time for me to just have fuuuunnnn!!!!
And if the right one actually comes along, well yea for me!!!

I will be careful, but not so totally closed off that I won't see if anything good is happening!!!

Have a great nite to all of you!!!

Hugs

Guest

I get where you're coming from Heart.
By the way, love the new pic and t-shirt!!! LOL!!!

I don't want just sex either but I can't say I honestly want that commited relationship either. So which would it be? If I can find a friend who wants the same as me and we can have a good time with each other but not get hung up on each other, but still respect each other and not treat the other like just a booty call then I guess that's what I want right now!!!

Does that make sense? Does it make me a ho?!!!
I honestly can't say, but it's how I feel. When my ex boyfriend would start talking about our "future" and when and how we would actually commit, I'd get angry and shut down!!!

I don't know!!! Maybe I just dont need to be around men right now!!!!

But you keep your head up and stay as strong and positive as you usually are!!!

Big bear hug to you!!!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Heart, you keep on looking!!! You and I both are going to find someone. It just might take a little time to find a real, honest, loveable, loving and true man. They seem to be a rare commodity these days. I am sure the real thing is snatched up as soon as it hits the open market, what with the demand being so high! So, we have to be patient and keep our eyes open. Who knows when we might stumble onto Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right Now!!!

Hugs to everyone!

Guest

Heart, I wish you all the luck!!
And that was great of your son to watch out for you!

I'm actually meeting someone tonight, at a small lounge near me.
We messaged each other a couple of times and then spent about 30 instant messaging then the last two days on the phone.

I know it's not much time, but there seems to be a small connection, so I have his pics saved for my daughter....in case...and I'll text her his license plate when I meet him.
I'm just meeting him there, he doesn't know exactly where I live or even what kind of car. Or my last name either.

Wish me luck as well!!!

And that profile you posted, well we all know he's not for real!!!
Plus he's too far for me!!! LOL!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Good luck Soon! Glad you are being safe too! Have fun and let us know all about it!!

Heart - you keep on throwing back those fish. There are lots more out there. We just have to catch the right one, that's all!

Guest

Well, met this guy at the little lounge near me. he pulls up on his motorcycle! He is really 6' and he comes over and gives me a hug!
Very nice build, maybe a little too thin but definately not skinny and NICE butt!!! he filled out his jeans well!!!

so, we spent the next 2 hours!! talking and laughing! He honestly didn't brag, just talked normally about his life and his boat, but only cuz I kept talking about his boat!!!

he's been texting me sweet little stuff since then and he's a good kisser!!!
He's not exceptionally good looking but his personality more than makes up for it!
And for being 43, he does have hair!! Nice dark brown!

And he wants to take me for a ride on his motorcycle but I'm a little hesitant. I've seen the after effects of accidents!!
I told him so and he said we can just ride around the city or local roads and he won't take me on the freeway.

He wants to meet up on Sunday so I'll keep you posted!

Guest

OMG Soon,

My husband introduced me to motorcycle riding and I love it. You need a helmet, and should layer up, cause unlike being in a car, there is no protection from the weather on a bike. However, that being said, there is nothing like smelling nature all around you. Oh and above the calf boots if you have them.

What kind of bike does he have? We have a BMW, and 2 Goldwings. No, I don't "drive" I like snuggling up behind the one I love.

At 43, I would guess that he has been riding for quite a while. My husband has ridden since he was a teen and was a motorcycle mechanic in his youth. My husband knows I feel comfortable on the motorcycle with him, but says he doesn't do certain things he would do if I wasn't with him, as he always wants me to feel comfortable and secure when we are out together. No, he doesn't do stupid stuff when he is on his own, just a little more agressive when he is riding alone than with me snuggled behind him.

Some questions to ask this guy, (per my husband) 1. What was his worst crash? 2. How long ago was his last crash? 3. How long has he been riding. 4. Has he ever competed "on a race track." 5. Does he have a friend/friends that would be in the area when you go for a ride?

Reasons for questions 1-4 for you to LISTEN to his response. So you get a sense if this is a serious rider who doesn't take unnessary risks or just some weekend "risk taker." Reason for question 5 is to ask the friends what kind of rider he is.

What does he do for a living, if I may be curious enough to ask. Most importantly, go have fun. If at anytime you feel uncomfortable, ask him to pull over and discuss what is making you uncomfortable. Do let me know how it turns out.

Guest

Thanks, Nish,
I will definately ask him!
And he even told me that it would be best if I have a leather jacket and to layer up also!!
And it's also going to be 60 and sunny on Sunday!

Now he did say that he's been riding since he was in his early 20's and I don't know how true, but he said he's never been in an accident or even received a ticket.

He is some sort of engineer and he spends alot of time buying and selling civil war artifacts.

And I said he was 43, sorry, I was reading the wrong person's profile!!! This one is 47!!!! But he has very little grey!!! Just some on the sides.

His bike looks almost like a custom harley, but it's actually a Honda.
And the good part is that it has the back rest so I won't just fall off the back of it!! LOL!! But believe me, I will be holding on tight to him!!

He said he's going to take me for a ride into the country for a picnic.
I don't really have boots like that except for my western riding boots!!!
I'm really excited though!!! He said where we are going, he won't have to get on any freeways and he won't go over 50mph.

I'll post how it went afterwards!!!

Hope you all have a great wknd!!

Guest

Hey Soon,

Sounds like an awesome time on Sunday! My husband says your western riding boots will work fine. You want something that will cover the ankle area.

The guy sounds experienced and wanting to insure you are comfortable while riding with him. In my book that means alot. Oh, I am so with you on a backrest. When I first started riding with my husband his BMW didn't have a backrest (sissy bar is what bikers call it.) I mentioned to him that I was alittle uncomfortable that there was no backrest...ya know something that lets you know that if your butt goes past this spot, you will end up on the ground. He built a backrest to remove my discomfort, and I thought it was so sweet.

One of the things I love about riding on a motorcycle with my husband is being all snuggled up and holding onto him. Mmmmmm Mmmmmmmm Good!

Have fun and yes, I want details!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Yeah, how did it go?????

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

I don't know. I had a guy IM me today who wanted that too. (Well, I guess he would have been a boy toy since he was all of 27 and looked about 12) - I don't think it is really that they find women to have sex with uncommitted - I think it is that the men LIKE TO DREAM that is what they'll find and so they look for it - Surely they are not all finding that!!!! No way!

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Well, if a man can't wait to get to know me to try and have sex, then he's not worth my getting to know!!!!

Guest

Sorry for not posting sooner!!!
OMG!!! That's all I'm gonna say!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Not!!
I went to his house, which is quite nice but he didn't even brag about it!
he got me my helmet and made sure I had brought my gloves and I brought a bottle of wine which he tucked into one of the leather bags on the side.
I couldn't see the food, but I didn't think to ask.
Then he starts it up.....ooooh sooo sexy sitting on it, and he was wearing black leather pants and a leather jacket and did he look HOT!!!
Not the hairy biker type!! He's clean shaven and has short black hair with some gray on the sides.
So I get on and we take off, nice and smooth, the whole ride! I think I was kinda sqeezing him too hard but he never complained.

So we went to the state park and when we get there....ready?!!!!!!!!!
He whips out fresh chicken and shrimp that had been marinated and cut up zucchini and tomatoes and builds a small fire in this metal container
and proceeds to make us shish kabobs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And I did notice he brought alcohol wipes and wiped his hands after touching the raw food and before touching the vegis!!!!!!!!!

It was sooo good!!! then we went and hiked around a bit but the whole time, I couldn't keep my eyes off his body!

Ummmm....enough about that!

To say the least, I was impressed!!
Well, we are getting together again for dinner on Wed but we slipped in a quick date last night!
He called and wanted to see me!!!

And ladies, let me tell you, he has the sexiest voice!! It's DEEP!!!!

But I'm taking it a day at a time and just having fun right now, cuz of course he could always turn out to be some sort of psycho!!!!
(He'd make a sexy one at that!)

I think I officially like motorcycles!! But he has a truck too and a boat!!!

Well, have a great nite!

Guest

See all of us "bikers" aint soo bad....lol

And who you calling hairy......Clean shaved all around here too...

Glad you had fun......

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl

Wow Soon! Sounds awesome!!! Just watch out for the "full court press" is all I'm saying (that is where a guy will try to see you every day for a week or so that it feels like you've known him forever, just so you'll go ahead and have sex with him). You just do what you feel comfortable with, nothing more!

Hugs! Can't wait to here the next update!!! YOU GO GIRL!