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Guest · Posted: Tue Jul 14, 2009 11:37 am Post subject: Thought he was THE ONE

Ah well....
I know now at least I AM capable of loving someone.

It all started the week before last, I asked about spending Wed night with him because my daughter would be gone and he said he couldn't, he had to work late and rearrange some stuff in his house all while not looking at me!!!

And I'd been having weird vibes for the last couple of days from him!

We had had an awesome 4th together and he continued to tell me he loved me and I was amazing, blah, blah, blah!!!

So 2 weeks ago, wed morning, he got up to get in the shower and I know I shouldn't have but I looked in his phone and checked his texts. Well surprise, surprise!!! He was asking another woman when they could get together!!!! And she responded wed evening!!!

So I left and then called him on the phone later and asked him if he was having any second thoughts about us and if he was, would he tell me?

OF COURSE he said no right away, so I told him what I found on his phone and then he said OK he was having second thoughts because my situation isn't allowing us to progress at the speed he wants!!!! WTF!!!

Because I can't move in with him now and because my financial situation isn't the best yet.

I told him that I had stated to him in the beginning that I would not be able to move in with him and my financial situation is only temporary and I've never asked him for help. And what did that have to do with loving me? I asked him, how he could lie so much, lead me on to the degree he did then just stop like that? All because I caught him!!!

So, basically I've been almost physically ill, am just getting some of my appetite back...did lose about 7 lbs!! (which has motivated me back into exercising!!! LOL)

But I went back on POF after I saw his profile was active again!! And let me tell you, I have been having FUN!!!!

I have dates EVERY night this week and into the weekend!

And "mr. perfect" has been calling me almost everyday, viewing my profile all the time and even called me yesterday telling me he is sooo confused and mixed up and needs to do some serious thinking.

I told him that we are adults here and if he truly loved me, we don't have to live together and we would overcome other problems.

He said he does love me and misses me terribly and I AM amazing but he's gotta figure things out. But I sounded cheery while talking to him and he asked me if I could come over last night, or tonight or wed.

I told him maybe wed but that I was busy the rest of the week.
He had even invited me to go out on his boat next wknd with his daughter and I told him that I'm not doing the Family thing if we are not a couple!!!

I can tell you that I was crushed 2 weeks ago, cried my eyeballs out for 3 days but now I've come to the conclusion that I do love him, I do want him but I'm going to "keep my options open" too and see what develops with anyone else.

And guess what? Although we are only going on our second date, I met this one guy and he's sooo sexy and has the most amazingly gorgeous blue eyes and a personality to boot!!!

Not that I have any idea where it could go, because I am going on dates every night this week with other people but we'll see!!!

I'm just going to have fun, like I kept telling myself in the beginning and this time keep my freaking heart locked away!!!

Sheesh, I NEVER want to feel that kind of pain again!!! OMG! It was excruciating!!!

But I did lose 7 lbs!!! So something good always comes out of something bad!!
And I believe he's starting to realize he let someone good go!!!

HA!

Guest · Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 7:50 am Post subject:

Only thing I can say is "once a cheater/liar......." and you can figure out the rest.

Guest · Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 9:10 am Post subject:

Well, he called me twice last night!! once while I was on a date!
But I took his second call and I told him that what he's doing and has done is outright cruel and to not ever call me again and to have a good life.

Then I cried my eyeballs out. But this one guy is taking me out to lunch today, and I have other dates lined up too!!!

My heart hurts but I'll keep myself busy.

And Hearton, I don't think I can open myself up again anytime soon.

But, I weighed myself and I've lost 9lbs!!! Whoo hooo!!!!

My tummy is flat again!!! LOL!!

Rolling Eyes

Guest · Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 9:45 am Post subject:

It would be one thing if he broke it off with you to spend some time alone and sort himself out...then figured out he didn't want to be without you. That would be understandable. The fact he set up dates behind your back tells you he's not a straight shooter. I don't see how you could even consider trusting someone who would do that.

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl · Posted: Wed Jul 22, 2009 11:04 am Post subject:

Soon, I am so sorry to hear this. I was hoping that you had found the right guy. Obviously, he is not the right guy. I'm glad you found out now, rather than later, but I know it still hurts a lot.

Don't wall your heart up. I did mine and I just can't seem to find it any more. Or maybe it was stabbed one too many times and it has just shriveled up to nothing?

The most important thing in life is love though, I really believe that. Don't shut yourself off from it!
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Guest · Posted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 6:54 am Post subject:

Love comes in many forms. There's love for our parents, children, siblings, close friends, neighbours, spouses and the list goes on. Cherish whatever love you have in your life and never close the door to having more. By the same token don't covet what love you think others may have or you read of in novels. We each love in our own way.

CityGirl a/k/a FlirtyGirl · Posted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 2:27 pm Post subject:

So, are you doing okay Soon? If you find some extra men you could send them my way!!

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